A found item from working on the redo of www.everydayzen.org - it’s already online somewhere so I’m sure Norman won’t mind if I republish this. Norman never spoke that much about his life in our studies together, and here he explains a bit about why and also a bunch of interesting stories. It appears to have been published in 2007 originally but I don’t remember ever reading it. -Tim
In a dream I have had, someone asks me to write a piece about
my life. They want me to write about my early religious life and training,
how I became interested in Zen, any events, characters, things that seem
important and salient to me in my spiritual development. In this dream
I sit with a blank stare looking at the person who is asking me for this
writing. I have no idea what he is after, why he interested in such stuff,
how to go about writing this material, because I recognize in the dream
that I cant say no to his request.
I suppose I have an anti-biographical bias. Im not sure why. I
notice how interested people are in biography. I am a poet, and I note
that most popular poems are forms of biography. But I write lyric poems,
which is to say poems that are not about me or how I feel but about the
world, and words, and all the things that cant be said. Biography
is a mystery to me. The story of anyones life: how immense, ineffable,
impossible! So many dubious assumptions not even noticed in raising the
prospect, Tell me about your life. Still, we want to know,
and we want to tell. That in itself may be the most important thing about
I discovered the most important facts of my spiritual biography a year
or so ago when I realized two things, first, that, having be born at the
end of World War II, I grew up surrounded by people who were traumatized
and didnt know it. I probably should have guessed this years ago:
when I was seven or so years old and playing on the roof of our building,
which afforded a view of the bridges that fed traffic into our town, I
managed to fly a red and black Nazi flag that my father had captured in
the War. Traffic stopped, panic ensued, and my father was summoned home
from work to take the flag down. That might have been a clue that people
were by and large on edge all the time. The second important fact is the
realization I recently had that I must have been enormously effected in
my early life by the fact that I grew up in a household of Yiddish speaking
people, in which my grandfather was ill and always on the point of dying.
This cast a pall over everything, and since the family drama was conducted
in a language I didnt understand, gave every moment a mysterious
sense of dread, confusion, and expectation. I remember I had an English-language
bible record that I played over and over again. When the voice of God
came on Id hide under the dining room table to listen with great
fascination (did I imagine that God does not look underneath furniture?).
When I was seven my grandfather died. I have no memory of this. Dont
know if I attended the funeral or burial, but I doubt that I did. I do
remember being a lonely boy. Mostly an only child (my brother was born
when I was five) and living far away from other children, I spent a lot
of time alone or in silence with my grandmother, now a widow who was cheerfully
awaiting her own departure, which she always felt was immanent. Wed
spend hours looking out our second story window at the cars going by on
the street. Since there werent many of them, each car was an event,
suddenly appearing and then just as quickly gone, in an otherwise still
and quiet scene. At night there were the lights that you saw approaching
before the car itself appeared. Death, sadness, mystery, seemed to be
my playmates. I took this for granted. I was probably quite unhappy but
I dont remember that.
I was nine or ten years old when our small congregation hired a young
lively Orthodox rabbi, just out of the seminary. A slight, energetic,
and intellectually restless man, Rabbi Maza was as free-thinking as he
was committed to his tradition in all its details. Lacking anyone to talk
to in our small and largely uneducated community (He was from Jewish New
York, and used to lively discussion) he took me on as a protege. So from
ten years old till fourteen, I was a very religious boy, studying not
only Torah and Talmud with the rabbi, but anything else we could get on
our hands on, from Plato to Freud. I became proficient in prayer, could
read the vowelless Torah script, and often led the services that I attended
daily. I remember how much pleasure this gave the old men, all of them
immigrants from Europe, to see a young American boy so fluent in Hebrew
and so resonant with the old melodies. I enjoyed the chanting and took
pride in it. Everything about Jewish religious practice pleased me. It
was complicated and challenging and you could get good at it.
When I was fourteen the rabbi left town to take on a congregation in
New York, no doubt a relief to him. At the same time I was beginning high
school, having friends, dating, playing sports. I was an absolutely normal
American small town boy. Whatever dark thoughts I had had as a child,
whatever religious feelings I had had as a pre-adolescent, simply disappeared.
They came back to me in my twenties, years of torment and suffering. I
had no good reason to suffer, other than the fact that the world appeared
confusing and impossible to me, but this was only a feeling I had. Still,
one doesnt need good reasons to suffer. Reasons or no reasons suffering
feels like suffering. Through the suffering I developed an interest in
questioning lifes oddness and unworkability, an interest that I
felt had always been with me, but that Id forgotten about for a
while when I was busy having fun. That interest led me, step by philosophical
step, to Zen, the only form of Buddhism that was being written and talked
about in the West at that time. It appealed me to immediately, largely
because I had become a poet by then, and Zen seemed inherently art-friendly.
I ran into someone who had practiced at San Francisco Zen Center with
Suzuki Roshi. I learned how to do zazen, which the zen books I had been
reading never mentioned, and took to it immediately. As soon as I could,
I moved to California (as exotic and far away to me as India was to my
contemporaries), made contact with the Zen Center, and went off on my
own to practice, a copy of Kerouacs Dharma Bums in
my knapsack. I did a lot of solo backpacking, days of sitting, writing,
reading, being a hermit. This went on for some years. Finally I saw that
more organized practice was necessary and I went to the Berkeley Zen Center,
and later to Tassajara where I lived for five years or so. I liked the
Berkeley Zen Center and Sojun Weitsman, my root teacher, was quietly supportive
of me. His zen was simple and plain, and that suited me. I liked the more
official San Francisco Zen Center less well, but it was tolerable, and
it gave me the chance to practice full time for about twenty-five years,
for which I am grateful.
In those twenty-five years I had the chance to do a lot of zazen, and
to encounter many teachers. Also many students, whose lives were always,
against the silent backdrop of Zen practice, starkly revealed, giving
me a profound picture of the human heart. The time went by very quickly.
I learned many things about communication, organizations, cooking, farming,
accounting, and other such things, without really trying to learn anything.
Im afraid I have forgotten most of what Ive learned. In
meditation I had a lot of strong experiences, even memorable flashes of
transcendence, but nothing that distinguished me as an exceptional practitioner.
There were some exceptional practitioners, and I admired their achievements.
I have had a career as a Zen priest. Ordained in 1980 by Zentatsu Richard
Baker, a teacher who was always very kind and supportive of me, if a bit
too busy to particularly notice me (nowadays he tells me he did notice
me), I received Dharma Transmission quite unexpectedly from Sojun, was
elected some years later, by an odd process of elimination (there seemed
to be no one else willing or able to do it), co-abbot of Zen Center, served
a five year term, respectfully declined a second term, and went off on
my own in 2000 to establish the Everyday Zen Foundation. I remember that
I had had a hernia operation about a week before my very complicated Abbots
Stepping Down Ceremony that was held in February of 2000, and was still
in recovery, walking with great difficulty and concentration, which made
the ceremony more impressive I think.
Reviewing all these apparent facts organized around what anyone would
conventionally call a persons life I wonder what it all means.
People often ask me how Zen practice has changed or influenced my life.
This is a hard question to answer. I am sure I must be different from
the sad boy of five I once seemingly was. But I cant say how. Every
day I have new problems, nothing is solved. But I am willing for that
to be the case, possibly forever, which I suppose is my main achievement.